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December 22nd, 2015 10:04 AM

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Most people assume that Christmas is hardest for children who’ve stopped believing in Santa Claus.  But actually, the holidays are most difficult for those who have experienced a recent loss, through death or divorce, particularly if this is the first holiday after their world has been torn apart.

Many new singles and single mothers, who often feel uncomfortable at Christmas, unconsciously convey this discomfort by putting off holiday preparations until the very last moment, then throwing everything together in a halfhearted frenzy.  Perhaps one of the reasons for these feelings is that, deep in their hearts, they think holiday traditions belong only to the perfect “Norman Rockwell” families.  The first time a newly single person opens the ornament box alone, such a sense of loss is felt that a decision may be made not to continue the holiday rituals once treasured because the comparison of Christmas Past with Christmas Present is too painful.

The truth is, we all need the reassuring and healing messages that treasured family rituals provide.  One of the most important aspects about family traditions – rituals that families continue to do year after year – is that traditions have symbols that families definitely need.  Cherished customs are just as important for grownups as they are for children, and they bring much comfort and joy. 

No matter what the situation this Christmas, unpack those beloved holiday traditions.  Create new ones that express authenticity to be passed on to future generations.  And most of all, enjoy the family and friends that are still with you, which is a Christmas gift in itself.  Count your blessings and have a very Merry Christmas!

Allen and I wish all of you a very MERRY CHRISTMAS!!

Written by Barbara Doeringer

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