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February 6th, 2018 8:45 AM

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A personal note for this month of love:

A very familiar saying is, “Everything happens for a reason.”  Perhaps you have heard this after some sort of tragedy, the death of a loved one or some other senseless negative event.  Every single day we are bombarded with news of one tragedy or another and even this flu season has been especially difficult and heartbreaking for so many. 

This saying, although meant to console, is very weak in a truly serious situation.  For one thing, what kinds of reasons are behind “everything?”  No one ever said “a good reason.”  Many things happen for a terrible reason long before any good is apparent.  The world today and throughout history is full of examples of things that happened that were dark and painful for far too long.  It is easy now to say they happened for a reason, but those words would have been cheap and hollow in the middle of an experience like severe famine, genocide or war. 

There are many things we will never understand until we have the perspective of eternity after our human existence.  We don’t always know what lesson we are learning, or what strength we are developing that one day we will be able to share with another in need.  Our losses, regrets, or damages are real.  Better words or phrases to use would be more like: “I’m here for you.”  “I care.”  “I want to help.” 

I have been trying not to use this phrase anymore, as it can negate a person’s sense of shock, pain or grief, which needs to be processed.  No one knows what tomorrow will bring and we could one day be on the receiving end of “everything happens for a reason.”  So, let us be more sensitive to not deliver this phrase.

Written by Barbara Doeringer

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